Let’s Stop Coping and Choose Influence

Posted by on Feb 22, 2013 in News | No Comments

This is no longer an awareness campaign. This is an influence campaign. We want to move your children to do the right act at the right time. THAT will save a life.

To influence them we must give them an experience that will change the “cause and effect” map they already have established.

To change that map we must use stories, experience, and vicarious experience instead of merely talking to them.

To be effective, the message must not only describe the problem but include the solution.

We want to help our kids see their choices as moral quests or personally defining moments using baby steps and gradually introduce tasks that require increased effort and persistence.  Thereby, transform the difficult into easy, the aversive into pleasant, and the boring into interesting.

We could spend our time coping:

“We’re not happy with the school…”

Complain and get a tutor for your child.

“Our company’s IT department is underperforming…”

Outsource it.

“There’s too much crime…”

Build a bigger prison.

It’s done all the time. We tend to be better copers than influceners. It’s like the Serenity Prayer, except we want to change it to “the wisdom to make a difference”.

“God grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change;

courage to change the things I can;

and the wisdom to know the difference.”

 Out children are speeding in cars toward the end of a cliff and we have assembled the ambulances and medic team at the bottom to help with the damage created. We need to put our resources ahead of the cliff, before they go over.

Let’s stop coping and choose influence.

 

 

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